Letting Go of Holiday Traditions
Metaphysically speaking, when we loose our joy, we loose our connection to Source or Spirit and we loose our personal power. Holiday Traditions that frazzle us, burn us out, drains us, or cause us unnecessary upset may be replaced or let go of all together. We all have the power of choice. If we don’t like something in our life or if something just doesn’t feel right anymore, doesn’t resonate or has lost all it’s joy we are allowed to make a change because we are responsible for our own feelings and emotions.
What we sometimes don’t realize is that no one is responsible for how we feel but us. If we don’t like something or it no longer resonates or serves us we are responsible to make the shift that will enable us to feel better about it. No one else can do that for us. We have so much power with us yet we often times give that power away when we blame, feel victimized or let others manipulate and control us.
It is always okay to make a change when we intuitively feel we need to. We are most in alignment with Source and our higher self when we feel good, at ease and at peace. When we feel love, joy, happiness life just seems to flow for us and we seem to effortlessly receive more of what we desire. When we are in situations that make us miserable, the universe will just dish us out more things to be miserable about. From a metaphysics standpoint, that is how Law of Attraction works.
In some instances merely shifting our attitude or perception about the tradition can help us feel better about it too. Any emotional change that makes us feel better, creates an energetic shift. When we focus on things that make us feel better we create for things in our lives that make us feel good. We are sometimes so eager to please, we forget that it is not our job to make other people happy. The only feelings and emotions we have control over are our own. Unhappy people are unhappy because of what is going on inside of them and they attract more unhappy people and more unhappiness into their lives. Their happiness is NOT because of you or anything you do or don’t do.
“Give me some relief from all this Holiday Stress,” you holler from the roof tops. Holiday Traditions can be changed and they can be let go of all together.
“Oh what a relief!”, you say. Yes, doing things differently can bring a sense of calm to the holidays for you. It is okay to create new traditions to better suite the needs of family members and their evolving and changing needs. There is no reason to be so rigid about things.
When a tradition becomes a burden and no longer brings us joy we may want to consider changing it or eliminating it altogether. When something or someone no longer feels good, it is the Universe’s way of telling us it is no longer right for us. Try to simplify by doing less this holiday season and enjoy being present and peaceful with your loved ones instead.
The more forced a holiday tradition is the less joy it brings to everyone. When a tradition stands on it’s own, fills your heart with love and brings you joy … those are the ones to keep.
Don’t be afraid to let go of the old because it makes room for new. It allows even better experiences … and YES … traditions to come enter our lives. It is alright for us to embrace new traditions and still keep the fond memories of the old ones. Change is okay. We are constantly changing and evolving and human beings. You nor I are the same people we were 10, 5, even 1 year ago. What worked for us 10 years ago may not work for us today and there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with you!
Don’t let others guilt you into things to get their own way if it is really not in your heart to do it. Guilt is the feeling that you did something wrong and shame is a feeling that something is wrong with you. Neither is true. When we hold ourselves in guilt or shame, we are actually resonating with the two lowest vibrations in the emotional spectrum. Those two emotions stunt our growth, block us from receiving the good that we are so worthy of and often cause us to repeat past mistakes (by living in the past and repeating the same story that no longer resonates with us) instead of being present and authentic which enables us to create our best life.
Guilt is a weapon of manipulation that is used to control and manipulate us by appealing to our sense of responsibility, and obligation. Governments use it. Religions use it. Family members use it. Friends use it. Bosses and coworkers use it. But, does that make it alright? ABSOLUTELY NOT
Your goal in life, as a human being, is to keep your own vibration as high as you can as consistently as you can. Love is the highest vibration and happiness, appreciation, joy and satisfaction are just below that. When we love someone, the last thing we want is to cause them to experience anything that will lower their vibration or upset them. We want to help them maintain a high vibration and feel love happiness and joy. If your behavior does not reflect this, then that is not unconditional or true love.
We don’t however want to loose ourselves and our own sense of joy in the process of pleasing others for the mere sense of pleasing them. When something feels heavy, it isn’t right for us anymore. When something feels light, easy and good it is right for us. What’s light for us, is right for us.
When we are asked, “What’s wrong with you, you used to be different!?”, “Are you trying to upset me?”, “Don’t you know that you’re ruining my holiday?” by individuals attempting to guilt or shame us, these statements are out of frustration (and low vibrational) because they are unable to make us do what they have been able to make us do in the past with the same behavior.
People try to make you feel guilty so that you will give in and do what they want you to. This is not the behavior of love, it is the behavior of self-centered manipulation. When you have an open, honest heart filled with love and appreciation, you are simply unable to behave in a way that causes fear or guilt in another.
Of course if you want to do what is being asked of you, not as a result of guilt or shame, but from a sense of well being and happiness then by all means go ahead and do it. When we do things out of the joy and love in our hearts it is always the right thing to do.
Allowing guilt-trips to affect us causes our vibration to lower to their level. Here, we are much easier to targets to control and manipulate. If we can remain stable and simply hold our higher vibration and feel good about our decision knowing it is right for us, they will be unable to affect us. Their attempts will become futile and seem juvenile.
If we are asked to do something, go somewhere, visit with someone and we feel good about it, embrace that and go ahead and do and have fun. Everyone benefits from our positive vibration. If, on the other hand, we are too busy, or we just don’t feel like doing what is asked of us, whatever the reason, then don’t do it. And certainly do not feel guilty about it.
Hold no hard feelings or grudges against others either when they choose to do what is best for them. You have the power to choose to be happy regardless of what others do or say. Don’t give away that power. What we don’t have is power over another, how they feel, or what they do. Act in accordance with your heart and graciously allow others to do the same. When we do that, when we do get together with one another, we are our authentic selves which always, always, always creates a much better experience for everyone,
Be true to yourself this holiday season. Be courageous enough to stand by what you feel is right for you in your heart, then there is no reason for guilt or shame. Those emotions become unnecessary and lose their power. You will feel the freedom as you expand from your increased personal power. Metaphysically, when you act from a place of authenticity, you do what you feel or know is right in your heart. Your heart is the gateway for direct communication with your Higher Self or your Spirit Self. When you act in alignment with that, you are never misguided and your vibration always remains high.
Remember that you are perfect, you are whole, and you are complete just the way you are. Give yourself permission to be happy even if that means releasing past obligations that no longer serve your highest good. From “The Metaphysical Specialist” may you and your famiy have a blessed and joyous Holiday Season!
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